Close to the event horizon, pairs will be produced. One will have negative energy and be an antiparticle the other with positive energy, normally, from which is now subtracted a huge amount of energy due to their proximity. Thus you could have 1 very negative energy anti-particle, and 1 particle which may have positive or negative total energy. In your example I believe you want the anti-particle to fall in first. This leaves a particle with negative energy. It has two options: either it falls in through normal gravity, or it flies away, gaining total energy as it goes, and thus becoming a positive energy particle again. If it falls in, then it's energy will become even less, as it is getting nearer the black hole. However if it had a huge energy at the beginning it might never get near enough (due to the uncertainty principle) to the black hole (inside the event horizon) to cancel all of it out. Thus it can have positive energy, though it's more likely it will go negative eventually.
The reason why black holes do exert a gravitational attraction is because of the curvature of
space time. The event horizon stops particles, and light from travelling along space-time, but
the surface is still there. Imagine throwing a rock in the air. You will never be able to throw
it up more than 200m, thus you could say that 200m is the "Event horizon for rocks". This
doesn't mean that space stops 200m up.
If there was a singularity in the center of a black hole, then these particles would continue to fall forever towards it, gaining negative energy all the time, and thus all particles would eventually attain negative total energy, regardless of however much positive (mass etc) energy they had at the beginning. However, if, as suspected, small-scale quantum mechanical effects come into play prohibiting a singularity, then there would be a maximum amount of negative energy that any particle could gain. So, lighter particles with less positive energy would end up with negative total energy, while the more massive (high positive energy particles) would, even after the addition of the maximum negative energy, still have positive total energy. I hope that isn't too confusing.
As to your last question, I think it's about an attribute called "Helicity" that photons carry h = ~1. It's rather like spin, and can point in either clockwise or anti-clockwise direction, along the photons path. The interaction of the helicity with the incident particle causes either a repulsion or attraction. However, it's ages since I took HEP courses, and I couldn't be sure !!!
Lastly, thank you for the great photos, were they taken with a Celestron C8 ? I studied Astronomy in my second degree and was perpetually looking through various telescopes at the great beauty of the stars. However these are some of the best photos I've seen, especially of Halley's comet, as Scotland didn't get too good a view! Once agaln, thank you, and I hope this is all useful,